Have you ever noticed how obsessed we are with the concept of good? We use the word all the time, we greet people with a "good morning" and end the conversation with "have a good day" or "goodbye". We tell our babies how good they are, or the dog how good he’s been after doing his business outside.
Goodness naturally spills into righteousness. Doing good work becomes doing the right thing. Being responsible is a good thing. We want our children to be good and work hard and be responsible adults. It’s all about being good.
Does anyone teach their children to do bad things? They probably do, but I guess they do it thinking it is the right thing. This is where it gets messy. What is good to someone may not be to someone else. What I may think of as healthy affection towards my baby, might come across as spoiling him to someone who thinks you need to be stern with children so they grow up being humble and do good. This is all tied to being good.
In fact, I am going so far as saying that we have built lives out of our obsession with being and doing good. This obsession at times feels like a prison. Its walls are so thick that we can’t see what’s going on outside. We have barricaded ourselves in our prison cell with what we think is good and sometimes it gets stifling and claustrophobic.
Feelings of unworthiness also can come out of that same prison. When bad things happen or when what you try so hard to achieve does not, then you go into your unworthiness corner. It happened or did not happen because I was not good enough.
Other belief systems that stem from this obsession with goodness include: competitiveness (I have to be even better or I have to be the best), righteousness (X is good, Y is bad), rule of life (if I do good, good will come to me), criticism (not good), perfectionism (not good enough), justice (if you do bad things, you’ll be punished), etc. It seems that everything we’ve been taught has been about being good.
I would not be writing this article, if our belief in goodness was all that we needed to navigate through lives that have been hit hard by loss, and unprecedented bad times. I am reminded of the conversation I had with a previously religious person who believed her father was a saint and had done nothing but good to drop dead just when he retired and finally had some money to live a comfortable life. She was angry at God, the same God who her father had prayed to daily and gone to church for every Sunday. She could not understand or forgive God. Being good had not earned her father any points on earth. So, why bother being good?
It all comes down to choice. If someone told us, “do good only because you want to, not for any other reason” then it wouldn’t become a prison. Better yet, if someone told us, “do whatever you want, it doesn’t matter”, then what would we choose to do? When I tell myself that, I tend to freeze. It is as if, nothing makes sense anymore. And I am reminded that what supposedly made sense, was just what I had believed in, that goodness mattered.
Today, I believe that goodness matters. It matters to me. I don’t try to be good for any reason other than it feels good. When it stops feeling good, when it becomes an obligation, a judgment, a heavy responsibility or burden, is when I stop doing what I believed to be good. It makes sense: the moment it stops feeling good, it isn’t good anymore!
I am learning to navigate the world of shifting realities, endless potentials, and softly held beliefs gingerly and with eyes wide open…
Questions to Ponder:
1) What is one belief that you have held on to most of your life? How did it become yours?
2) How has it served you?
3) Are you willing to give it up? Why?
Take some time to think this over or ponder with a friend. If you feel the need to talk with a spiritual life coach, email or call me and we can discuss what your beliefs mean to you or where you might be feeling stuck.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Entitlement
I used to think that people who had a strong sense of entitlement were also infused with a huge ego. Recent encounters with more people who behave as if the world and all of its other occupants are here to serve them, has lead me to believe that what they are actually inflicted with is a very narrow vision that together with a huge ego, can run over others like a tank.
When you think that you and your needs or desires are at the center of the world, then naturally everyone else is here to serve you.
I’ve seen this in the case of my teenage son, and as teenagers go, it seems that they have this type of vision in common to some degree or another. As a parent, by teaching him about the world and showing him as much of it as I can and inviting him to read about places and lives he knows nothing about, I hope that it will expand his view. With this expansion of his narrow vision, hopefully he will be cured of his sense of entitlement.
But what about adults who behave this way? It is more common than you think. You probably know quite a few. And then there is the accepted form of entitlement that most businesses practice. From the entitled guests at your house who think they can do what they do in their own home at yours without asking if they can, to tele-marketers who call at night asking what your mortgage rate is, everyone thinks they can have a piece of you. And they can, unless you decide that you won’t play that game.
These days we also have the soft and gentle entitlement gurus. That would be the salespeople who have obtained your phone number or email and keep on infusing you with messages, advertising, and special deals on all kinds of things that you just didn’t know you needed. They act as if they are entitled to your time, your inbox, and hopefully your money.
Hence, the young clerk at the cash register of the local store where you are buying an over-priced t-shirt made in a developing country for pennies, feels entitled to ask you in a loud voice so everyone can hear: your address please, your phone number, and your email, etc. And when or if you say, I don’t like to give out all of this information, I just want to buy this t-shirt, they look at you like you have horns on your head. In fact, you look like you are being rude!
When you say no to the entitled of this world, they don’t like it and it is highly probable that they will try to make you look like the bad guy. It is a great strategy and it works for them. However, if you’ve had enough, you no longer want to be stepped on or even gently be pecked at, you can politely remove yourself from all those email lists and refuse to give out information or even say no to anyone who wants a piece of you.
It can be done without drama (you don’t have to slide out of a plane or yell out any expletives). It is called reclaiming your own power. And when you do, you’ll feel wonderful.
Points and questions to ponder:
1) Take some time to observe your life and your interactions with others. Do you mostly approach life and people as if they are there for your needs? Examine the way you treat service people (waiters, sales clerks, etc.), do you treat them like they are someone to go through to get to what you want (dinner, your dry cleaning, etc.)? Do you pretend to be interested in them to develop a relationship, so you can do business with them later on? Are you ever really interested in connecting with the people you come across in life?
2) Have you ever been taken advantage of by someone else? How did that make you feel? What did you do about it? How would you have like to have behaved? What will you do the next time someone tries to feed off of you?
3) When and whom do you say no to?
If you are ready to reclaim your own power in all areas of your life, and think that you might need some help, contact me so we can talk and you can determine if a spiritual life coach could help you on your journey of empowerment.
When you think that you and your needs or desires are at the center of the world, then naturally everyone else is here to serve you.
I’ve seen this in the case of my teenage son, and as teenagers go, it seems that they have this type of vision in common to some degree or another. As a parent, by teaching him about the world and showing him as much of it as I can and inviting him to read about places and lives he knows nothing about, I hope that it will expand his view. With this expansion of his narrow vision, hopefully he will be cured of his sense of entitlement.
But what about adults who behave this way? It is more common than you think. You probably know quite a few. And then there is the accepted form of entitlement that most businesses practice. From the entitled guests at your house who think they can do what they do in their own home at yours without asking if they can, to tele-marketers who call at night asking what your mortgage rate is, everyone thinks they can have a piece of you. And they can, unless you decide that you won’t play that game.
These days we also have the soft and gentle entitlement gurus. That would be the salespeople who have obtained your phone number or email and keep on infusing you with messages, advertising, and special deals on all kinds of things that you just didn’t know you needed. They act as if they are entitled to your time, your inbox, and hopefully your money.
Hence, the young clerk at the cash register of the local store where you are buying an over-priced t-shirt made in a developing country for pennies, feels entitled to ask you in a loud voice so everyone can hear: your address please, your phone number, and your email, etc. And when or if you say, I don’t like to give out all of this information, I just want to buy this t-shirt, they look at you like you have horns on your head. In fact, you look like you are being rude!
When you say no to the entitled of this world, they don’t like it and it is highly probable that they will try to make you look like the bad guy. It is a great strategy and it works for them. However, if you’ve had enough, you no longer want to be stepped on or even gently be pecked at, you can politely remove yourself from all those email lists and refuse to give out information or even say no to anyone who wants a piece of you.
It can be done without drama (you don’t have to slide out of a plane or yell out any expletives). It is called reclaiming your own power. And when you do, you’ll feel wonderful.
Points and questions to ponder:
1) Take some time to observe your life and your interactions with others. Do you mostly approach life and people as if they are there for your needs? Examine the way you treat service people (waiters, sales clerks, etc.), do you treat them like they are someone to go through to get to what you want (dinner, your dry cleaning, etc.)? Do you pretend to be interested in them to develop a relationship, so you can do business with them later on? Are you ever really interested in connecting with the people you come across in life?
2) Have you ever been taken advantage of by someone else? How did that make you feel? What did you do about it? How would you have like to have behaved? What will you do the next time someone tries to feed off of you?
3) When and whom do you say no to?
If you are ready to reclaim your own power in all areas of your life, and think that you might need some help, contact me so we can talk and you can determine if a spiritual life coach could help you on your journey of empowerment.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Excuses
During a recent conversation with someone, I was once again reminded of how often we use excuses for not addressing the real cause of our true dissatisfaction. She was expressing her regret at not getting a good education when she was younger. She continued with how she would have been able to have a better job, make more money, etc. I stopped her in her tracks and asked, “and what would that give you?” She looked at me like I was crazy, “well isn’t that enough? A good job with a good salary?”
So often we blame our outer circumstances for our unhappiness. There are a good number of people with an education, a good job with a good salary who are dissatisfied with life. For someone who does not have much or comes from a place of hard work and not having much growing up, it seems like a dream come true.
It is so easy to rationalize our dissatisfaction. I am unhappy because I don’t have X, or if I had Y, I’d be happy. Such simplifications at best keep people motivated to go for more, and at worst makes them envious of those who have what they don’t. Either way, it keeps them on a linear path of the object they are missing, close to achieving it or far away with no hope of getting there. Such obsessions become part of their narrative and the way they look at life and interpret whatever is happening.
We all look out into the world through our own lens. The more hardship we experience the thicker the lens gets. At some point we cannot see without our glasses. What if we looked at this example differently?
Imagine you have perfect vision and then something happens in your life or you have to live with a difficult situation, you start wearing glasses because you can only see what you think you want to see with those glasses. Every opinion you form, every judgment you pass, every pain you endure becomes another layer between you and reality. In time, what you think you see isn’t even close to the real thing.
If you find yourself making up excuses for what you are missing in your life or blaming others, or different circumstances for what you are experiencing, it is time to stop. Take off your glasses and see what is really there. You might find that the story you’ve been repeating in your own head was just that, a story, an old and irrelevant story.
It is time to step out of your story and start living!
Questions to ponder:
1) What is the tape you keep on replaying in your head when you are dissatisfied with something?
2) What is it that you think you need in order to be happy?
3) Have you ever been completely satisfied? What did it feel like? How could you feel that way again?
Spiritual life coaching is an open-ended process that begins and ends where YOU need it to. Maybe you hang on to excuses in a way that keeps you from moving forward in your life, or maybe it’s something altogether different. Either way, if you think you could benefit from working with a spiritual life coach, contact me.
So often we blame our outer circumstances for our unhappiness. There are a good number of people with an education, a good job with a good salary who are dissatisfied with life. For someone who does not have much or comes from a place of hard work and not having much growing up, it seems like a dream come true.
It is so easy to rationalize our dissatisfaction. I am unhappy because I don’t have X, or if I had Y, I’d be happy. Such simplifications at best keep people motivated to go for more, and at worst makes them envious of those who have what they don’t. Either way, it keeps them on a linear path of the object they are missing, close to achieving it or far away with no hope of getting there. Such obsessions become part of their narrative and the way they look at life and interpret whatever is happening.
We all look out into the world through our own lens. The more hardship we experience the thicker the lens gets. At some point we cannot see without our glasses. What if we looked at this example differently?
Imagine you have perfect vision and then something happens in your life or you have to live with a difficult situation, you start wearing glasses because you can only see what you think you want to see with those glasses. Every opinion you form, every judgment you pass, every pain you endure becomes another layer between you and reality. In time, what you think you see isn’t even close to the real thing.
If you find yourself making up excuses for what you are missing in your life or blaming others, or different circumstances for what you are experiencing, it is time to stop. Take off your glasses and see what is really there. You might find that the story you’ve been repeating in your own head was just that, a story, an old and irrelevant story.
It is time to step out of your story and start living!
Questions to ponder:
1) What is the tape you keep on replaying in your head when you are dissatisfied with something?
2) What is it that you think you need in order to be happy?
3) Have you ever been completely satisfied? What did it feel like? How could you feel that way again?
Spiritual life coaching is an open-ended process that begins and ends where YOU need it to. Maybe you hang on to excuses in a way that keeps you from moving forward in your life, or maybe it’s something altogether different. Either way, if you think you could benefit from working with a spiritual life coach, contact me.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Optimism, Pessimism, and Reality
Are you one of those people who appears to be looking at the glass as being half full or half empty? The analogy of the half full or half empty glass is a funny one. Either way, it does not change the reality of the situation.
Typically, the person seeing it as half empty is described as being negative. However, the person’s expectation might be for the glass to be full, so they are concerned about it not being the way they’d like it to be. If you look at it this way, they are actually being positive.
On the other hand, the one seeing it as the glass being half full, is perceived to be happy with a half full glass. Does this imply that they never expected it to be full?
Whatever your tendency might be (to be excited about whatever is happening or focused on what did not happen), the reality of the situation has not been affected by your tendencies.
If you are setting goals for yourself and then looking back to see if you accomplished them, what happens?
Do you focus on what got done, embellish the facts and skip the part that didn’t happen? Do you beat yourself up for what you did not accomplish? Or do you objectively look at the whole picture and focus on what got done, what didn’t, and why?
Reality is never affected by our tendencies. Our own personalities and moods are affected by them.
If you approach every situation with the goal of keeping it real, you can be an objective attendee in your own life without the unnecessary drama. So, the next time someone asks you if the glass is half full or half empty, just say, “oh who cares how I see it, it is what it is” and then move on. That will give them something to talk about…
Questions To Ponder:
1) How does your optimism or pessimism affect reality?
2) What is reality?
3) How would you like to approach life?
Take some time to think this over or ponder with a friend. If you would like to speak with a spiritual life coach, email or call me and we can discuss how your attitude can affect your life or where you may be feeling stuck.
Typically, the person seeing it as half empty is described as being negative. However, the person’s expectation might be for the glass to be full, so they are concerned about it not being the way they’d like it to be. If you look at it this way, they are actually being positive.
On the other hand, the one seeing it as the glass being half full, is perceived to be happy with a half full glass. Does this imply that they never expected it to be full?
Whatever your tendency might be (to be excited about whatever is happening or focused on what did not happen), the reality of the situation has not been affected by your tendencies.
If you are setting goals for yourself and then looking back to see if you accomplished them, what happens?
Do you focus on what got done, embellish the facts and skip the part that didn’t happen? Do you beat yourself up for what you did not accomplish? Or do you objectively look at the whole picture and focus on what got done, what didn’t, and why?
Reality is never affected by our tendencies. Our own personalities and moods are affected by them.
If you approach every situation with the goal of keeping it real, you can be an objective attendee in your own life without the unnecessary drama. So, the next time someone asks you if the glass is half full or half empty, just say, “oh who cares how I see it, it is what it is” and then move on. That will give them something to talk about…
Questions To Ponder:
1) How does your optimism or pessimism affect reality?
2) What is reality?
3) How would you like to approach life?
Take some time to think this over or ponder with a friend. If you would like to speak with a spiritual life coach, email or call me and we can discuss how your attitude can affect your life or where you may be feeling stuck.
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Surrender To Peace
While having lunch with an old friend today, our conversations lead to moments in life when we folded over and just gave up. Laughing, we both agreed that in our younger days, we would have never given up or surrendered. Our dog has to have surgery on his knee soon, and I am feeling helpless, not knowing if this is the right decision and I find myself once again in a state of surrender I remember being in before.
There was the time when my new born son had to have surgery and as they rolled him away into the operating room, I gave up and surrendered to something greater than the both of us. Then there was the time when my daughter had to get stitches on her cut eyebrow and even though the surgeon kept reassuring me that she wasn’t feeling any pain, she kept screaming, I surrendered as I sat there holding her and attempting to calm her down. There was the time when my father died and I felt lost, helpless, not knowing what to do, I surrendered and gave up trying to figure out what to do.
In all of these moments, I gave in to something much bigger than me or the situation I had found us in.
Looking back at all of these moments, what stands out is a great sense of peace that over took my mind and comforted my breaking heart each and every time.
I can’t help but wonder why we wait for a calamity or something close to our heart to be ripped apart to surrender. Surrender works when you don’t have the answers, when you have tried everything you could and still don’t know what to do, or why it happened, etc.
I wonder if we can access that peace that is beyond our human understanding in every moment of every day. Is it always there and we are just too busy, thinking and doing our lives away to notice it? Is it waiting for us to call out to it, to make itself accessible? Or is it just patiently hanging out with us while we anesthetize ourselves with busyness and drama and then one instant when something doesn’t work out as planned and we get disconnected from our regularly scheduled programming, we bump into it and like an old friend we get reacquainted again and wonder why we haven’t kept in touch?
Whatever the case may be, I know that after all that you could do has been done, it is time to surrender.
Surrender is not a sign of defeat, it is a request for help. The term surrender is not one of my favorites, in fact, I remember a time in my younger days when I hated that word. I would never surrender I thought. Surrender to what? I thought I knew all the answers.
Life’s bumps and bruises have gifted me with a new appreciation for the concept of surrender. I don’t have to know what I surrender to, I just need to know that I don’t know all the answers and that’s ok. I need to know that it is ok to make what might seem to be a mistake from time to time.
It is ok to give up. It is ok to ask for help. It is ok. All is well. In fact, it has always been and will always be ok. There is a wisdom greater than what is in our heads that if we get quiet enough, we can tap into. That is what true surrender means to me. It is about stepping out of ego and into spirit.
Questions to ponder:
1) What does surrender mean to you?
2) Are you comfortable with the idea of surrendering?
3) Have you ever surrendered? What did it feel like? What was the outcome?
Spiritual life coaching is an open-ended process that begins and ends where YOU need it to. Maybe the concept of surrender is an issue that keeps you from moving forward in your life, or maybe it’s something altogether different.
There was the time when my new born son had to have surgery and as they rolled him away into the operating room, I gave up and surrendered to something greater than the both of us. Then there was the time when my daughter had to get stitches on her cut eyebrow and even though the surgeon kept reassuring me that she wasn’t feeling any pain, she kept screaming, I surrendered as I sat there holding her and attempting to calm her down. There was the time when my father died and I felt lost, helpless, not knowing what to do, I surrendered and gave up trying to figure out what to do.
In all of these moments, I gave in to something much bigger than me or the situation I had found us in.
Looking back at all of these moments, what stands out is a great sense of peace that over took my mind and comforted my breaking heart each and every time.
I can’t help but wonder why we wait for a calamity or something close to our heart to be ripped apart to surrender. Surrender works when you don’t have the answers, when you have tried everything you could and still don’t know what to do, or why it happened, etc.
I wonder if we can access that peace that is beyond our human understanding in every moment of every day. Is it always there and we are just too busy, thinking and doing our lives away to notice it? Is it waiting for us to call out to it, to make itself accessible? Or is it just patiently hanging out with us while we anesthetize ourselves with busyness and drama and then one instant when something doesn’t work out as planned and we get disconnected from our regularly scheduled programming, we bump into it and like an old friend we get reacquainted again and wonder why we haven’t kept in touch?
Whatever the case may be, I know that after all that you could do has been done, it is time to surrender.
Surrender is not a sign of defeat, it is a request for help. The term surrender is not one of my favorites, in fact, I remember a time in my younger days when I hated that word. I would never surrender I thought. Surrender to what? I thought I knew all the answers.
Life’s bumps and bruises have gifted me with a new appreciation for the concept of surrender. I don’t have to know what I surrender to, I just need to know that I don’t know all the answers and that’s ok. I need to know that it is ok to make what might seem to be a mistake from time to time.
It is ok to give up. It is ok to ask for help. It is ok. All is well. In fact, it has always been and will always be ok. There is a wisdom greater than what is in our heads that if we get quiet enough, we can tap into. That is what true surrender means to me. It is about stepping out of ego and into spirit.
Questions to ponder:
1) What does surrender mean to you?
2) Are you comfortable with the idea of surrendering?
3) Have you ever surrendered? What did it feel like? What was the outcome?
Spiritual life coaching is an open-ended process that begins and ends where YOU need it to. Maybe the concept of surrender is an issue that keeps you from moving forward in your life, or maybe it’s something altogether different.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Inner or Outer Change?
The kind of change most people have learned to handle is outer change. Outer change is like changing a job or a house, you are still the same person at your new job, you are taking your old stuff to your new house. So, what has changed? A different order of activities, new faces, new name on your paycheck, new address your bills are being delivered to, etc. Under normal circumstances, we can handle these kinds of changes because we are equipped with the tools to organize our outer lives. Even if we don’t like the new boss or the new neighbors, we think we know how to deal with them.
Sooner or later, the same issues creep up. The new job starts out fresh and then once you learn the ropes and get to know the people, you start seeing parallels between this and the old job. You start having the same old feelings, the same itch and dissatisfaction. You immediately start evaluating and re-evaluating the situation and think of ways to either change things or leave for greener pastures. And the cycle will repeat itself.
They come back, the beliefs. They come back to remind you of how important they are. They come back to take hold of you. They come back for you to recognize who is really in charge. When you let them be in charge, when you become their follower and believer, you are comforted. All is in order once again. The place you were uncomfortably hanging out at, where you thought you could change the belief, or let it go completely without replacing it with anything else, no longer exists. You are not wobbly and fearful anymore. All is as it had been before. You are safely held in place. This is when you think and experience life as one outer change after another.
If however, you take any opportunity for outer change as an opportunity for inner change, then things will get interesting! That is when you find yourself in the uncomfortable hanging out place mentioned earlier. Inner change is not comfortable. It is not familiar; it is not validated by anyone or anything out there. Inner change is lonely. Inner change is uncertain. Inner change is not easy and that is why most people won’t go through it voluntarily. Why would they want to, when they have all of their old beliefs supporting, comforting, and defending their old self, or the way things used to be.
Life’s biggest transitions are opportunities for inner and outer change. Unfortunately, they are usually involuntary and feel like they have been done to us (e.g., loss of a job, loss of a loved one, divorce, etc.). The truth of the matter is that if they hadn’t happened, we would not have made the changes that would guide us towards living a more fulfilling life. Hanging on to our stories and beliefs is a safe and cowardly way of living. For some it is the only way they know how. If you are still reading this article, chances are you are not one of them. You are ready for inner change. You are ready for living a different life. Listen to the voice that has lead you here and take action, get help, there are lots of resources waiting for you to declare your readiness and make the choice for deep inner change. Congratulations!
Sooner or later, the same issues creep up. The new job starts out fresh and then once you learn the ropes and get to know the people, you start seeing parallels between this and the old job. You start having the same old feelings, the same itch and dissatisfaction. You immediately start evaluating and re-evaluating the situation and think of ways to either change things or leave for greener pastures. And the cycle will repeat itself.
They come back, the beliefs. They come back to remind you of how important they are. They come back to take hold of you. They come back for you to recognize who is really in charge. When you let them be in charge, when you become their follower and believer, you are comforted. All is in order once again. The place you were uncomfortably hanging out at, where you thought you could change the belief, or let it go completely without replacing it with anything else, no longer exists. You are not wobbly and fearful anymore. All is as it had been before. You are safely held in place. This is when you think and experience life as one outer change after another.
If however, you take any opportunity for outer change as an opportunity for inner change, then things will get interesting! That is when you find yourself in the uncomfortable hanging out place mentioned earlier. Inner change is not comfortable. It is not familiar; it is not validated by anyone or anything out there. Inner change is lonely. Inner change is uncertain. Inner change is not easy and that is why most people won’t go through it voluntarily. Why would they want to, when they have all of their old beliefs supporting, comforting, and defending their old self, or the way things used to be.
Life’s biggest transitions are opportunities for inner and outer change. Unfortunately, they are usually involuntary and feel like they have been done to us (e.g., loss of a job, loss of a loved one, divorce, etc.). The truth of the matter is that if they hadn’t happened, we would not have made the changes that would guide us towards living a more fulfilling life. Hanging on to our stories and beliefs is a safe and cowardly way of living. For some it is the only way they know how. If you are still reading this article, chances are you are not one of them. You are ready for inner change. You are ready for living a different life. Listen to the voice that has lead you here and take action, get help, there are lots of resources waiting for you to declare your readiness and make the choice for deep inner change. Congratulations!
Monday, June 14, 2010
Now What?
So, I am spiritual, now what? Sometime in the process of awakening, you are faced with the question of now what do I do? I know better, I understand that there is something out there or in here, wherever, that I am connected to, how does this knowledge help me? And that is precisely where the issue lies. If you find yourself swimming or drowning in this question, you are still in your head. The moment it starts shifting from a brain-based knowledge to an experience-based knowledge is when you stop asking the question: now what?
We all know better, yet we still make the same mistakes, we fall for temptations and forget what really matters in life. This is a perfect example of how just knowing something doesn’t mean you are going to act accordingly.
If you’ve read all the books and gone to all the workshops and you are still in a place where you feel stuck, it is time to put the learning into your experience. Where in your body do you feel the knowledge and if you say I don’t feel anything, that’s further evidence that you are stuck in your thoughts or in your head.
True learning is not just about mental analysis. If you want to know if you have truly learned something, you may want to ask yourself what happened in your life in the past 3-5 months that mirrored what you have learned? True and complete learning is about integration and melding for shifts in consciousness to occur.
To help you get un-stuck, please ponder these questions: If nothing seems to be moving, where exactly do you think or feel you are stuck? If you were un-stuck, what would that feel or look like?
We all know better, yet we still make the same mistakes, we fall for temptations and forget what really matters in life. This is a perfect example of how just knowing something doesn’t mean you are going to act accordingly.
If you’ve read all the books and gone to all the workshops and you are still in a place where you feel stuck, it is time to put the learning into your experience. Where in your body do you feel the knowledge and if you say I don’t feel anything, that’s further evidence that you are stuck in your thoughts or in your head.
True learning is not just about mental analysis. If you want to know if you have truly learned something, you may want to ask yourself what happened in your life in the past 3-5 months that mirrored what you have learned? True and complete learning is about integration and melding for shifts in consciousness to occur.
To help you get un-stuck, please ponder these questions: If nothing seems to be moving, where exactly do you think or feel you are stuck? If you were un-stuck, what would that feel or look like?
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